I Miss My Husband

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I miss my husband tonight.

I miss my husband

He is away at work, I have one sick child and everyone is tired and cranky and refusing to go to sleep.

I have had a big busy hectic day and it’s times like this I just wish my husband was here when I got home.

He is only away for 3 nights total this week.  I am not trying to compare myself to those of you who’s husband is away for much longer, or forever.  But that doesn’t make my struggle any less.

Here are 11 things I miss about my husband when he is away:

1. Someone adult to talk to.  IMG_0517

In a house full of children, I miss having a decent conversation with a grown up sometimes.  It’s amazing how quickly you tire of telling someone 10 times to do the same thing.

You really appreciate an adult who will listen to you and who knows how to follow instructions!

2. Help.

It’s the little things he does around the house that I really notice are absent when he is.  

He loves making the boys their school lunches, and he will always make me a cup of tea after dinner and bring it to me where ever I am in the house.

balanced lifeHe is also a great breakfast chef so breakfast times in our house are always an event.  He loves to put on a spread with amazing food and fantastic coffee in the mornings.

So, while I run around crazily making sure everyone is ready for school in the morning, he does the background stuff which makes me stress less, and yell less.

3. His relationship with the kids.

Daddy is the fun parent.  

He plays with them and wrestles with them and kicks the ball.  He encourages them constantly to be active and have fun.  I love seeing them together and I hate seeing them apart.  Having him home also takes the pressure off me being the sole entertainer!



4. A calming influence.

When life ever gets too hard, he takes time out to remind me romantic holiday destinationsabout the important things in life.  

He tells me to not sweat the small stuff and he takes us all to the beach.  Or he seduces me and makes me forget all my problems, which for the most part are only trivial anyway.

5. A tender touch.

Every time I walk past him, he grabs me or touches me in some way that lets me know he cares deeply about me.

If we go out together we always hold hands.

It’s this wonderful degree of intimacy that makes me feel very empty when he is not here.  

6. A sweet word.

I miss the way he always has something nice to say to me.  

Like – I really like they way you have done your hair, or geez you look sexy in that dress!  Maybe I am being spoilt here but I can’t wait for him to get home for more confidence boosting complements.

7. A sounding board.

Sure, we can talk on the phone but it’s just not the same.  We love bouncing ideas off each other and helping each other out where we can.

8. Cuddles.

What’s nicer than curling up together on the couch and watching your favourite show?  We have this ritual of tea, chocolate and Netflix after everyone is in bed and our work for the day is finally done.

It’s just not quite the same on your own.

9. Dinnertime.I miss my husband

Cooking for one adult sucks.  

It is so hard!  So we end up having things like eggs on toast for dinner often when he is away.  My darling children never seem to appreciate my culinary delights quite the way my husband does so it is a matter of K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid) for dinner.

 

10. Bedtime.

We’ve got a king size bed.  That’s a big bed for just one body.  I get lost in it alone!  Whenever he is gone I sit up late by myself writing or watching movies just because I can’t stand going to that big bed solo.

Actually, I’m never alone for long.  I’ve got 3 little kids and inevitably at least one of them will find their way in there at some point during the night!

11. A formidable team.

We form a united front.  

A tough team that will triumph over all.  Even the way we take the boys to school together is just part of that awesome classic partnership strength.  We even link arms!

When he is not around I really feel as if I am missing my right arm.  He is my wing man.  And I miss him.

Working away from home is not for everyone.

I know he misses being at home terribly too.  

Yet believe it or not, we can make it work and we have done for several years.

I miss my husbandThe worst roster Brian ever did was 22 days on with 6 days off for over a year.  We had a new baby and the baby didn’t recognise him each time he came back from shift!  Man, I almost didn’t recognise him!

The rosters have gradually evolved to 2 weeks on 1 week off, then 8 days on and 6 days off, to 5 days away and home on the weekends.

These days the deal is much better with only 3 days a week spent away and the rest in the home office.  But I still miss him.

Of course absence does actually make the heart grow fonder, it’s true!  

His days away are really making me appreciate him when he is home more.  And we certainly don’t take his presence for granted either.

Whatever your situation, you need to find some good in it.  

And if you can’tI miss my husband find any good, then you need to change it.

For us, he works long hours because it pays well and it is our means to an end.  We need him to be the breadwinner so that we can afford our lifestyle and our children can have a comfortable life.  Otherwise he wouldn’t ever go away.

Working away from home is our current reality and we miss each other like crazy!

But we are still maintaining a happy, healthy love-filled relationship despite this.  We make sure we have a lot of fun when he is home!

I miss my husband

Hopefully one day we can take the steps we need in order to eliminate spending so many days apart.  

What is your current reality?

Please comment below to share!

Love,

Kris

 

 

 

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  1. 1
    albina

    What an awesome way to tell hubby about the misses that have built fro the three days that he has been away?
    That is like a poem, it expresses the true feelings of love for dear husband.
    The absence is felt and the gap should be filled up already as soon as he returns after 3 days.
    That is a great way to express your love, I just like it.

    • 2
      Kris

      Thank you, he liked it too!

      I am waiting for him to get home tonight. Can’t wait for this!

      Cheers for your comment, Kris

  2. 3
    Nelson

    I love the way you present your site and article.. everything is stemmed from love even down to the things that we are eating everyday.. and you express your self in this site and so many awesome ways…

    thank you for an awesome post and I look forward to sharing this with my wife later..

  3. 5
    Diana Worley

    It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your husband so it is only natural to miss him. When my children were young, my husband traveled very often for business.He would be gone from anywhere from 3 days to a week at least once a month. I was stay at hom mom to 2 young children and even though I had family close by for help, I still really missed his presence. It was this work that allowed me to be able to stay at home with the kids so I kept that thought in mind as we waved goodbye at the airport or watched him drive away for a week. This was before Skype and cellphones so there was only our evening call when he sat alone in his hotel room.I would tuck notes from me and pictures from the kids in his luggage or wallet for him to find which always made for a great evening call.
    Those days are gone, the kids are grown and on their own but we speak fondly of those days when we sacrificed and held on for the sake of our little family. It’s funny how you can look back at tough times with vision that makes you smile at what you didn’t smile at back then. Its all because you survived and lived to tell the tale. These days, 30+ years along when he takes a few days away to go fishing with his buddies, I still miss him. But it’s okay, because he is always in my heart.
    Keep that great guy in your heat and you will never be lonely.

    • 6
      Kris

      Wow Diana, I look forward to being the amazing wife of 30 years strong that you obviously are.

      I think it’s the sacrifices that make us who we are and without the hard times, the good times aren’t as good!

      I will keep him forever in my heart. And you, yours xxx

  4. 7
    Liz

    I am inspired by your post mostly because it is so lovely that you can so openly express your love and appreciation to your husband. Sounds like you really have a great relationship and make an excellent team. What lucky children to have such strong role models of parents who clearly love each other and can show what a functional relationship looks like. Good on you both!

    • 8
      Kris

      Hi Liz, I am so happy I could strike a chord with so many of you!

      I guess my own parents were married for over 45 years which provided a good strong upbringing for my childhood which has spilled over into the sort of love and stability I want to provide for my own kids.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment today!

  5. 9
    Daniella

    Hi Kris,

    What a wonderful article, I was absorbed by the reading!
    It’s so beautiful to see how much you care about your husband, especially with three toddlers. As we say in French, Chapeau!
    I have two children with my husband and I remember that when they were still very young the only thing I was thinking of, was sleeping and nothing else! I was so exhausted that I couldn’t think after 19:00 PM:)
    Today my children have grown up, thus, I have more time for myself and for my husband.
    My sister just gave birth and I am sure she will enjoy your article:) I will share it with her right now!

    Thank you very much for this excellent post!

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    • 10
      Kris

      Thank you very much Daniella, I am glad you enjoyed reading!

      Too often we realise much too late how fleeting these times are with our precious little tots and how fast they actually do grow up.

      On one hand I can’t wait for them to grow up because I wish I had more time just myself and my husband but at the same time, I would regret wishing away the beauty of them now.

  6. 11
    SJB

    Hi! Everything that you mention in this article is what makes a marriage and happy and healthy one. It sounds to me like you two have an amazing and beautiful relationship. If you miss all of these things about him, it’s a good sign. I am sure he misses you for the same reasons. I am a single mom and can’t begin to imagine what it would be like to miss all these things. I am really happy for you. I am sure that you guys make the most of each other when you are together. 🙂

    • 12
      Kris

      Aw, thanks for the lovely comments!

      After writing this post my husband has actually been home for the last few weeks constantly so I haven’t had a chance to miss him recently.

      He said he actually teared up when he read the post so that meant a lot to me too, knowing he misses us just as much.

      Thanks again, Kris

  7. 13
    shrey

    This was an adorable post, the site sure does have a lot of information which is really interesting. I liked the way you mentioned all these points because a few of them are obvious but we never tend to notice them.
    It is really amazing that you have a caring husband and he is lucky to have someone who appreciates him.

    • 14
      Kris

      Hi there Shrey and thanks for commenting,

      My husband is away for work this week so right now this post is so relevant to me too.

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